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Help Them Understand You

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Last month, we looked at why you sometimes get misunderstood at work.

This month, we focus on what you can do to keep it from happening.

Personality differences …

Let’s start with the number one bit of advice I can give you to bridge the gap between you and those who think and act differently than you.

It starts with understanding how things go wrong.

People who communicate, process information, make decisions, and interact with others differently than you will often see your style and your particular behavior as perverse and motivated by something other than positive intention.

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Why Don’t They See Me As I Truly Am?

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Sometimes people just don’t get you. You’re misunderstood at work … and it’s frustrating.

After all, you just want what’s best for your organization.

But there’s a mismatch between A) your positive intentions and what you see as your constructive communications and well-meaning actions and B) how others perceive those intentions and actions.

I see it all the time.

Examples: You take the bull by the horns and get a job done and others see you as controlling, non-collaborative, bossy, and competitive.

You listen carefully to what others in a meeting are saying … then take time to carefully consider it before offering any comment or opinion. Others see you as uninterested and disengaged.

Research shows, and our own personal experience confirms, that the way people relate to you is based on who they perceive you to be as a person … an employee … a manager … a  leader.

Your intentions simply don’t matter.

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Bargaining With Your Subconscious

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If you could accomplish absolutely anything you wanted in your personal life or your business … and you knew you couldn’t fail … what would you take on?

It’d be something big, wouldn’t it?

But there are no guaranteed successes in life.

When you take on something big, you know there’s always the possibility you could fail.

Sure, you came up with a great plan, but something unexpected happened and, just like that, you’re out for the count.

That’s life. Nothing is promised. Nothing guaranteed, besides death, taxes, and telemarketers calling at dinnertime.

But here’s the crazy thing.

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The Silent Destroyer

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It makes your blood pressure rise. Makes you crave carbohydrates. Makes your blood sugar rise. Causes you to “burn up” your calming and repair nutrients, such as vitamin C, the B vitamins, zinc and magnesium.

It suppresses your immune system, playing a role in the development of cancer, heart disease, osteoporosis, and diabetes, while increasing your risk of dementia and Alzheimer’s.

It turns damaging free radicals loose in your system. It inhibits the collagen production your connective tissue needs to sustain and rejuvenate itself and causes your cells to age faster. It not only stops the production of new brain cells, it damages your brain at the structural level of your DNA and puts you at higher risk for mental illness.

It compromises your ability to regulate your body’s immune response over time, resulting in chronic inflammation. It cuts off production of the master hormone responsible for growth and repair, DHEA.

All this makes you old before your time and shortens your life. This stuff is trouble.

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What’s Important To You?

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People do things for two reasons … to maximize pleasure and minimize pain.

Don’t’ want to have Alzheimer’s … otherwise known as Type 3 Diabetes … when you’re 60? Then don’t eat sugar and empty carbs. Pain averted.

But wait. Eating sugary baked goods definitely maximizes pleasure in the moment.

Choices!

So, which will it be?

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When You Care More Than Your Client

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Wait a minute. It’s not supposed to work like that.

Like what? Where you care more about your client’s success than she does.

And yet, it’s something I see coaches, lawyers, CPAs, and other service providers doing on a pretty regular basis.

Sometimes you just really get invested in your client’s success.

That’s great.

Sometimes more than they get invested in their own success.

Uh, that’s not so great.

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If I’d Only Known

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When I finally get some time, I’m going to __________.

What? What will you do? Fill in the blank.

Okay, may I be blunt?

There are some things that shouldn’t be in that space … things that tell me you’re just asking for trouble. And yet, a large percentage of the population might very well say these very things.

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Livin’ and Dyin’ … Lessons From My Kitty

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Our sweet kitty cat, Tootsie, died on February 7. She was 18.

I still “see” her everywhere around the house.  She was my constant companion for as long as I’ve lived here.  I got her from the pound when she was just a baby kitten.  She was the loudest one of the litter, mewing constantly, trying to climb up the cage, insisting that I take her home.

I did.  She fit in my hand.

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Listen To Your Body!

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I had a problem. I was losing weight.

I know. I know. It’s a problem a lot of you would love to have. And I get that I should expect absolutely no sympathy from you. Understood.

But, as a competitive athlete with a very small percentage of body fat, who needs to keep my muscle mass intact, I really can’t afford to do anything that causes me to draw from my reserves.

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